Three of us were having lunch and discussing relationships. We were looking at the various relationship stages around us: a friend who recently became engaged, a friend whose better half left after five years, a friend who plans to marry but is in no rush, a friend content without long-term prospects, and a friend questioning her current relationship.
Oops, moment of vertigo.
Anyway, we were discussing the lattermost relationship. The iffy one. It is not a simple situation, but no relationship ever is. Interesting people, interesting circumstances, interesting possibilities. They have been together well over a year (a long time by both parties' standards). She is beginning to discover what she really wants and needs and deserves in a man. He has become accustomed to her and what she has to offer. She is worried that it's time to make a decision. He has no idea that he could lose her.
Get to the point. I am quite tired, so this is going to become blunt.
My dear friend, one of my dearest, remained quiet (listening) throughout much of the conversation. But she became quite vocal on one point:
There's not really a good reason to end the relationship.
No, she said. Absolutely no. I hate that. That is the stupidest thing ever and I hate it. That is not a reason to stay with somebody. You deserve, everybody deserves, to be with somebody that makes them happy. Happy.
If happy isn't part of the equation...
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